what not to do

Sometimes all those lemons make you bitter from inside.........'bitter from inside ' because you are the only one who is to taste that, to live with that............others are way too busy to have a look at what you have inside........the lemonade and the lemony delicacies are enough to keep them wondering (awestruck most of the times .........) .

have been thinking of writing about what people around you, do unconsciously , hurting you, they don't realize that all the lemons have peeled your skin n it irritates to no end.......that you are prone to getting hurt regarding some sensitive topics of your life and existence.......

my new issue of good housekeeping got delivered today and my eyes stopped at an article explaining ,'what not to tell a cancer patient'.......i could not agree more..........have experienced so many 'acid attacks' and reading the article made me sad ............at the same time i was feeling like writing all those things which people DO NOT realize doing..........mostly the reason being, as i understand, they love sympathizing.............they find the opportunity to show solidarity sometimes.......in your face.........bluntly.........they are relieved that they are not the ones suffering and at the same time they are scared if it happens to them.........

i may be wrong but i feel that there is a fashion of doing charities these days and you get targeted for an act of 'charity' when there is no other spectacular option............am i being harsh...........and bitter.........NO.......it is so obvious in their body language, the way they hand out 'gifts'......and the way they look at my child..........there have been very few incidents when i have reacted to such things, when it was impossible for me to be nice to them.

and why i call the people 'THEM' and 'THEY'..............they think that it's not them , it's the other people who are meant for this and they cite endless examples telling you stories you are so scared of , or sometimes involve your future worries.......what will happen when you will get old n helpless...............so all the suffering people for them is the 'other people'........ bechare log........and it's their moral duty to sympathize.

ohhh there is another variety.........they start telling you all their woes .......the 'sympathy mongers' ...........these people crib and boast at the same time.............helpless variety , they just have salt, not acid..........they just gobble up your time.......no other harm though.......

i used to think of the ways to write about such experiences .......i know most of the people do it very innocently and unconsciously............after reading the story i felt like telling people what not to do with people with special needs .............i am a mother of a special needs child .......and still so outraged ........just think of the person who is directly at the receiving hand..........have seen people becoming bitter from outside too.......in one of my earlier posts, i have hinted towards such changes in a person at the receiving end.........now i am bold enough to talk about it openly.....

i have some good and some very good people in my life too and i do try and find my peace and happiness through small little things around me , but somehow those nasty people make me restless and uncomfortable many times.....that is the reason i wanted to list all of that , more so because i feel the 'nasty' people are very unskilled communicators, their intentions may be good most of the times but they end up peeling your skin while doing a beauty treatment for you..........they should know and the society as a whole , should also know ..........that if there are special people, they are not to be stashed under the carpet , that they are entitled to a dignified life , entitled to respect and love.........support should come from the immediate family and they should not be alienated from the society.............

will come back with all those detailed versions soon.......